Speaking the Truth in Love: some food for thought

So tonight I heard a sermon on some verses in Ephesians 4... The context is the Unity of the church.

In verse 14 Paul is telling the people that we are no longer to act like children in our faith being tossed to and fro being carried away by false doctrine...He goes on in verse 15 to say that we are to always confront these lies and speak the truth in love : "But speaking the truth in Love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ." KJV

I looked up the words Speaking in truth in the Lexicon in the back of my Bible. 

•   not only referring to speaking the truth but referring to presenting an action as truth and not counterfeit.

I looked up the word Love:

• Benevolent Love, however, it's benevolence, is not shown by doing what the person loved desires, but what the one who loves deems as needed by the loved one.

I am still studying... goodnight